Be a refuge
Though our family played games over Christmas, the real name of the game was flexibility. While our middle child was able to be home all along the other two could not be. Our youngest came in to celebrate then returned before December 25th. During which time the flu hit our daughter’s home so we never had all 3 home at the same time. Then when she was finally healed enough to come home on Christmas Eve, her husband came down with it, again! We celebrated with her but missed him.
Even with the changing schedules and sickness, Christmas was wonderful! My husband and I talked of how our Christmas’ have changed through the years, especially now all our children are young adults. Indeed our roles as parents have shifted and changed much over time but one thing remains- our love for our children.
As I read Solomon’s words in Proverbs about parents and children, I read them with a different perspective than I did 10 or 20 years ago, like in Proverbs 14:26
“He who fears the Lord has a secure fortress, and for his children it will be a refuge.”
The verse takes on a different meaning when I shift from young children at home to young adults out trying to find their way. I can’t go with them to make sure they clean their room, take their medicine, or play nice with others but I can dig into the Word, grow closer to God and let him create a fortress to be their refuge in time of need.
My greatest goal as a parent is to keep pointing my children and future generations to Christ. My most effective way of doing that is not preaching to them but by living it. When I fear and reverence the Lord, I am letting Him create in our home a refuge for them.
Lord, build the fortress so our family is a place of refuge for our children, our children’s children, and so on for as long as you bless me with life. May our home be a place they see as a shelter in the storm; may our home point to you. Amen